I have heard a story about Napoleon.
When he was a young boy studying in school, one of his classmates complained to
teacher accusing Napoleon of having stolen some article of his. The teacher
without asking for explanation started beating Napoleon mercilessly. The boy
kept quiet and left when the teacher finally stopped hitting. On the second day
the boy who had accused told the teacher that it was not Napoleon but someone
else who had actually stolen. Struck with remorse the teacher asked Napoleon
why he did not protest his innocence but kept quiet when he was beaten.
“I would have told you had you asked me
the question before you started beating. To say that I am innocent in the midst
of beating would show that I am afraid of the beating and hence lying. I have
no fear of beating or anything. That is why I kept quiet”
It was this fearlessness that took
Napoleon to great heights.
Fear is one of the major reasons that weaken
our endeavour to overcome challenges. Fear is often irrational and mostly a
function of the mind. If I confront a snake on my way, the fear is open and
either I run away or get it killed. I can secure my home better if there is a
genuine fear of being burgled. I can tackle the fear of examination by
preparing thoroughly. Open fears are easily overcome by precautions.
It is the hidden fear in the
subconscious of the mind that is difficult to conquer. When I was addressing
employees of a company, I asked how many of them can walk on a long 20”
concrete square beam kept on the ground. Everyone said they can easily do it and
some said they can run too. When I asked them how many can walk if the beam was
raised to 100 feet high, none replied. When I prodded for answer, a few said
they were afraid of falling. I said it is the same beam on which they could
walk and a few could even run but the only change is the location. It is the
fear of failure that has impeded them from saying yes. It is the same fear of
failure that deters us from taking many steps to grow in life. We drag our feet
afraid to take even small risks
Some steps to conquer fear could be as
below.
Confront
the fear by walking into it. If the
fear is irrational and is not open, challenge it. You are afraid of being in
the dark or being alone in a house, get into dark or stay alone. You may be
afraid initially looking for ghosts or intruders where there are none and after
a few times, the fear would vanish. One caveat however, it should not be
foolhardy like crossing Niagara
Fear
of failure. No man is always
successful. Everyone fails. Most reputed batsmen do not score centuries or
fifties often and do so only 25% of times. If they do not play for fear of
failure they would have never become great. Astronauts go to unknown and
untrodden places with tremendous risk but of course after training. Many of the
achievements would not have been possible but for their conquering fear.
Be
fully prepared.When you undertake a
job, be it writing an examination, or starting a business or joining a tournament
prepare thoroughly. Get all the facts that you need to know and the practice
needed. There is no shortcut to success than hard preparation. Learn the ropes
or tricks of trade.
Keep
in mind law of averages. I am afraid
of sleeping directly under the ceiling fan and would position myself slightly
away. My daughter smiled at my fear and asked me that in the several decades of
my life how many people have met fatal end by fan falling. I was not aware of
even a single case. When one can drive a car despite several accidents
happening all around, why not sleep under the fan was her question. The fear
vanished.
Try
repeatedly. Remember Robert Bruce or
Edison or Abraham Lincoln. One or two failures should not deter you rather they
should goad you to do better.
Have
faith in God. Whether you believe or not
in law of karma or the power in your stars, have touching faith in Providence, whatever your religion
may be. This faith will greatly facilitate the conquest of fear. You will never
feel alone in your endeavour.
“I
learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The
brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” Nelson Mandela
