Wednesday, December 7, 2011

How much to trust?

When a father asks his child who is standing on a book shelf to jump in his arms, it does unhesitatingly. It has a complete trust in his dad and a belief that he will come to no harm .That kind of trust is never possible in this cynical world where we believe that we are vulnerable when we trust someone. But without some trust can the world move on? Do we not walk on the road peacefully trusting that other vehicle users of road follow the rules ? Do we not send young children out to play believing no one will take them away? Can there be love and joy without some basic trust in human goodness?

When we go to a doctor and get some medicines prescribed, we trust his judgment implicitly and take the medicines. Likewise when we buy medicines from chemists, we believe that they are not duplicates or fakes. In our day to day transactions we trust people to a large extent as otherwise life would become unhappy. There may be disappointments on a few occasions no doubt but we should learn to live with it and not distrust everyone. Someone put it ‘You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don’t trust enough.”

Trust is based on the belief that others have confidence in you and your ability and will not take unfair advantage of you. It is the ability to create relationships with others based on mutual respect and caring. Good friends never betray your trust.

Uncongenial atmosphere of hate or lack of love, divorced parents, emotional and physical abuse, broken relationship, death of close relative, chronic illness and low self esteem could all lead to lack of trust and suspicion.Getting over this is not easy without constant practice and motivation from others. I would put a strong faith in God as the first step. This belief that He would take care of your troubles would gradually reduce the mistrust and enable you to ‘let go’ the hurts and disappointments. Mingling and living with positive minded people would provide the healing environment.

Overcoming unwanted fears, developing self esteem in one’s capabilities and building trusting relationships after due care would be the way to go about to get over this malaise.


  1. Inspirational post! I am a fond fan of Trusting in God for everything.

  2. Totally agreeing with you, KP. Positive vibes emanate from positive people and i always try to be near them when i am feeling low. It does wonders on my self respect:)Trust is something that is hard to earn, but can be harmed easily...

  3. Last three lines sum up everything so well..

  4. If we don't hurt anyone, nobody will hurt us, that is my motto. That is also called 'fear in God'. If we make mistake knowingly, somebody is there to admonish us, is my belief. Yes, I too like to mingle with positive people to get more energy, positive thinking in myself. As cloud nine says, 'trust is something that is hard to earn, but can be harmed easily'.

    Very nice post, Partha Sir.

  5. Partha sir, you have clearly pointed out the one most valuable asset of the community, Trust !
    We trust those people who we can count on to balance greater good of others over self interest; and what rule applies to others goes for us too !

  6. I felt so good reading your post. Trusting in something is a positive karma. So, positiveness will surely come back to us